Friday, November 6, 2009

How To Bring Passion Back Into Your Relationship


Couples in long-term relationships, whether married or dating, often complain about getting into a rut. The relationship that started off with passion and excitement has begun to wane, as work and the ordinary chores of making a living wear us out as time goes by.

If you are in a marriage that seems to be in a rut, or are wondering why you can't keep a long-term relationship exciting anymore, you need to stop and begin finding new ways to refresh the relationship with exciting activities.
  • Some have suggested that the dinner-and-a-movie routine has lost its excitement in the first year of a relationship. Do something different like: playing paintball, rent a classic car, go skydiving, or have a picnic. Do something outside the box like, start a water fight, or surprise your partner just when he is about to leave work.
  • Relationships fail for many reasons. One of the saddest reasons is that people simply drift apart because the other person doesn't excite them anymore. The hidden secret why couples drift apart is not so much that they have changed physically, as their attitude toward the relationship has changed.
  • The nature of things dictates that when a couple gets marry in their twenties, they will continue to be physically attractive to each other until the children are in their thirties, as long as they make themselves irresistible to each other.
  • Here the wife or girlfriend must take the lead, as it is universally agreed that of all things created, the “female is the beauty of creation all”. She has the power to attract that a man lacks. If she has failed in keeping a long-term relationship with the man she loves, it is because she has not sufficiently accentuated both her internal and external beauty to make herself irresistible to him.
  • One of the important things that both parties should give particular attention in making themselves irresistible to each other is to avoid being overweight. Couples who are presently overweight should consult with their doctors and dieticians, and put their advice into practice.
  • The wife or girlfriend should make sure that the couple goes out, at least once a week. They could attend a party, go watch a play, attend a poetry reading, or go play pool. They may stop at a diner or a restaurant and buy ‘take out’ food. Eat in their car or at a friend’s house. The purpose here is to do something different from the routine.
  • Often, in a marriage relationship, the wife will say, there is so much to be done: cooking, laundry, cleaning the house and caring for the children that there is no time left to go out. If you think about it, it is precisely because of the children that the couple should go out at least once a week to recharge their love, for inner strength to maintain a wholesome home.
  • Of course, arrangement should be made with friends or relatives to take care of the children whilst you are out. If the children have to sleepover be sure to pick them up from your friend’s or relative’s house early in the morning so as not to unduly burden them.
  • On the day of the outing, spend some time on yourself. Look in the mirror and identify all the things that you like about yourself. For example, if you have full shinny hair make the most of it. Let it flow down your shoulders. Men have a fascination with hair. If you have a full pouty lips, apply liner around the edges then fill in with a deep gloss that accentuates your skin tone.
  • Because you are out with your husband or boyfriend should not stop you from flirting with him. Play up your eyes. Flirt with him with your eyes. Look at him then look away. Use your eyes to tell him everything that you are feeling, everything that you would like to do with him.
  • Wear clothes that accentuate your assets. Hint at your curves without exposing them. Remember less is more. Incite his curiosity. Make him want to see more.
  • Wear a delicate scent. Apply your perfume twenty minutes before you go out the door. A woman’s scent is enticing. Overpowering perfume, on the other hand, is a major turn off.
  • Take care of your whole body, not just your face. Use a good sugar scrub on your body and follow with a rich moisturizer. If your body feels silky smooth, you will feel and act sexier, which is the point in going out in the first place.
Don’t make the preparation of your outing a big event. Do not disrupt the normal routine at home with an announcement that you need to look pretty for the day. Your husband and children will not like that. Instead, keep the preparation for the night in the background until you drop off the kids where they will spend the night, then pull all the stops and bloom like a flower before the man waiting to take you out.

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